The opposite of the religious fanatic is not the fanatical atheist but the gentle cynic who cares not whether there is a God or not. The atheist is a religious person. He believes in atheism as though it were a new religion.

Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works， the ability to give up something that does not work， and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.

根据他的长处而使用他，就是根据他的长处而制服他。

情绪是进化出来的适应机制，用于协调其他心理机制解决特定的适应性问题。