As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around.
"There are two occasions when the sacred beauty of Creation becomes dazzlingly apparent, and they occur together. One is when we feel our mortal insufficiency to the world, and the other is when we feel the world's mortal insufficiency to us."
Never be the brightest person in the room; if you are, you're in the wrong room.