The theatre is a place where one has time for the problems of people to whom one would show the door if they came to one's office for a job.
The speech we hear is an indication of that which we don't hear. It is a necessary avoidance, a violent, sly, anguished or mocking smokescreen which keeps the other in its place.
司马牛忧伤地说:“别人都有兄弟,唯独我没有。”子夏说:“我听说过:‘死生有命,富贵在天’。君子敬业而不犯错误,对人恭敬而有礼。四海之内,皆兄弟。君子担心什么没有兄弟?”