It is wrong to have an ideal view of the world. That's where the mischief starts. That's where everything starts unravelling.
"A book is a version of the world. If you do not like it, ignore it; or offer your own version in return."
The pleasure isn't in owning the person. The pleasure is this. Having another contender in the room with you.
One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.