The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
The reality is: sometimes you lose. And you’re never too good to lose. You’re never too big to lose. You’re never too smart to lose. It happens.
People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.  
我不怕辛苦,最怕的是没机会。