And the thing about a successful life is that a lot of the time, our ideas of what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They're sucked in from other people; chiefly, if you're a man, your father, and if you're a woman, your mother. Psychoanalysis has been drumming home this message for about 80 years. No one's quite listening hard enough, but I very much believe it's true.

公共领域是一个社会空间，私人个体聚集在一起形成一个公共体，表达社会对国家的需求。

成功不仅在于你取得了什么成就，还在于你在这个过程中成为了什么样的人。

无力感会腐蚀。绝对的无力感会绝对地腐蚀。