The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more than any qualification I ever earned.
The best architecture comes from a synthesis of all the elements that separately comprise a building: the structure that holds it up; the services that allow it to function; the ecology of the building - its relationship to the surroundings; the quality of natural light; the symbolism of the form; the relationship of the building to the skyline.