I think that the most important thing is to be honest with yourself and with your audience.

Use， do not abuse...Neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy.

【译文】暮春三月,穿上春天的衣服,约上五六人,带上六七个童子,在沂水边沐浴,在高坡上吹风,一路唱着歌而回

【释义】如果声誉超过了实际的才德，君子就会对此感到羞耻。