The ability to be alone is the ability to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those who can be alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another human being—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

Writing is a way of preserving the truth.

【原文】樊迟问知，子曰：“务民之义，敬鬼神而远之，可谓知矣。”问仁，曰：“仁者先难而后获，可谓仁矣。”【译文】樊迟问怎样才是“智”，孔子说：“专心致力于（提倡）老百姓应该遵从的道德，尊敬鬼神但要远离它，就可以说是智了。”樊迟又问怎样才是仁，孔子说：“仁人对难做的事，做在人前面，有收获的结果，他得在人后，这可以说是仁了。”