And the thing about a successful life is that a lot of the time, our ideas of what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They're sucked in from other people; chiefly, if you're a man, your father, and if you're a woman, your mother. Psychoanalysis has been drumming home this message for about 80 years. No one's quite listening hard enough, but I very much believe it's true.

No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you've come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.

假装二流是一流的，这是可怕的。假装你不需要爱，而实际上你需要；或者你喜欢你的工作，而实际上你知道你完全有能力做得更好。