Your self-worth is determined by you. You don't have to depend on someone telling you who you are.

Treating a person to a meal never fails， and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.

当他未得到官职的时候，唯恐得不到；已经得到了官职，又唯恐丢失掉。假若害怕丢失掉，便什么坏事都能干出来。