The problem is, if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you'll also, by implication, and in a far more nasty way, believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there. I nother words, your position in life comes to seem not accidental, but merited and deserved. And that makes failure seem much more crushing.

淌自己的汗，吃自己的饭，自己的事情自己干；靠天、靠地、靠父母，不算是好汉。人只有靠自己的力量，才能得以生存，不依靠自己，就将无法生存。

The most important thing is to be true to yourself and to the story you're telling.