独处的能力就是爱的能力。这对你来说可能看起来矛盾，但并非如此。这是一个存在的真理：只有那些能够独处的人，才能爱，分享，进入另一个人最深的核心——而不占有对方，不依赖对方，不将对方物化，不对对方上瘾。
The ability to be alone is the ability to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those who can be alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another human being—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.
当服从不再是一种刺激而成为我们的追求时，上帝将在那一刻赋予我们力量。