当事人应置身于利害之外，提出倡议的人则应设身于利害之中，才能知道利害得失。

Not necessarily your mother, or indeed mine, but, as it were, the ideal mother, somebody who doesn't care about your achievements. Unfortunately, most people are not our mothers. Most people make a strict correlation between how much time, and if you like, love -- not romantic love, though that may be something -- but love in general, respect --they are willing to accord us, that will be strictly defined by our position in the social hierarchy.

我们都有裂痕，那是光照进来的地方。

The best way to keep a secret is to never have one.