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这种观点说明，决心躲避他人并不意味着一个人在任何情况下都不愿和他人交往。这一想法只是反映了我们对所能够交往的对象的不满。愤世嫉俗的人都不过是理想主义者，他们对事物的要求标准很高，达到了常人所难以理解的程度。用尚福尔的话说：“我们往往把一个特立独行的人看作是不喜欢人际交往的人。这样的说法就像把一个不愿在深更半夜去邦迪森林散步的人看作是不喜欢散步的人样。”

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宗教并不指望我们单靠自己来处理全部的情感问题，它们在这一点上非常明智。宗教知道，当人们不得不承认自己无法克制绝望、贪欲、妒忌、自大等情绪时，该是多么的迷茫和蒙羞。宗教也理解到有些时候我们难以启口，比如如何去告诉无助的母亲我们对她极其不满，如何去告诉自己的孩子我们羡慕乃至嫉妒他，如何去告诉未来的配偶结婚这个想法既让人欣喜又让人惊恐。因此，宗教提供了特殊的节庆日子，使我们心中的烦恼可以借助这些日子而得到化解。宗教也提供了诗行让我们吟诵，提供了歌词让我么齐唱，引领大家走过心灵世界暗流涌动的险恶地带。

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我必须在这里做个总结，但我真正想说的是，成功是必要的，但请接受自己怪异的想法，朝着自己对成功的定义出发，确定我们对成功的定义都是出于自己的真心。

So, I'm going to end it there. But what I really want to stress is: by all means, success, yes. But let's accept the strangeness of some of our ideas. Let's probe away at our notions of success. Let's make sure our ideas of success are truly our own.

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我一直在谈论成功和失败。成功的有趣之处是，我们时常以为我们知道成功是什么，如果我现在说，这个屏幕后面站着一个非常成功的人，你心里马上就会产生一些想法。你会想，这个人可能很有钱，在某些领域赫赫有名，我对成功的理解是。首先，我是一个对成功非常有兴趣的人，我想要成功，我总是想着“要怎样我才能更成功？”，但当我渐渐长大，我越来越疑惑，究竟什么是“成功”的真正意义。

What I think I've been talking about really is success and failure. And one of the interesting things about success is that we think we know what it means. If I said that there's somebody behind the screen who's very successful, certain ideas would immediately come to mind. You'd think that person might have made a lot of money, achieved renown in some field. My own theory of success -- I'm somebody who's very interested in success, I really want to be successful, always thinking, how can I be more successful? But as I get older, I'm also very nuanced about what that word "success" might mean.

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我很喜欢圣奥古斯丁在“上帝之城”里的一句话，他说“以社会地位评价人是一种罪”。用现在的口吻说，看一个人的名片来决定你是否要和他交谈是罪。对圣奥古斯丁来说，人的价值不在他的社会地位，只有神可以决定一个人的价值，他将在天使围绕、小号奏鸣，天空破开的世界末日给于最后审判，如果你是像我一样的世俗论者，这想法太疯狂了，但这想法有它的价值。

I'm drawn to a lovely quote by St. Augustine in "The City of God," where he says, "It's a sin to judge any man by his post." In modern English that would mean it's a sinto come to any view of who you should talk to, dependent on their business card. It's not the post that should count. According to St. Augustine, only God can really put everybody in their place; he's going to do that on the Day of Judgment, with angels and trumpets, and the skies will open. Insane idea, if you're a secularist person, like me. But something very valuable in that idea, nevertheless.

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有什么方法可以解决刚才提到的这些焦虑呢？是有的。我想提出几项，先说“功绩主义”，也就是相信每个人的地位忠实呈现他的能力，我认为这种想法太疯狂了，我可以支持所有相信这个想法的，无论是左倾还是右倾的政治家，我同样相信功绩主义，但我认为一个完全彻底以能力取决地位的社会，是个不可能的梦想。

Is there any relief from some of thesepressures that I've been outlining? I think there is. I just want to turn to afew of them. Let's take meritocracy. This idea that everybody deserves to getwhere they get to, I think it's a crazy idea, completely crazy. I will support any politician of Left and Right, with any halfway-decent meritocratic idea; I am a meritocrat in that sense. But I think it's insane to believe that we will ever make a society that is genuinely meritocratic; it's an impossible dream.

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问题是，如果你打从心里相信，那些在社会顶层的人都是精英，同时你也暗示着，以一种残忍的方法，相信那些在社会底层的人，天生就该在社会底层，换句话说，你在社会的地位不是偶然，而都是你配得的，这种想法让失败变得更残忍。

The problem is, if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you'll also, by implication, and in a far more nasty way, believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there. I nother words, your position in life comes to seem not accidental, but merited and deserved. And that makes failure seem much more crushing.

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现在，无论是左倾还是右倾的政治人物，都同意“功绩主义”是个好事。我们应该尽力让我们的社会崇尚“功绩主义”，换句话说，一个崇尚“功绩主义”的社会是什么样的呢？一个崇尚功绩主义的社会相信，如果你有才能、精力和技术，你就会飞黄腾达，没有什么能阻止你，这是个美好的想法。

Everybody, all politicians on Left and Right, agree that meritocracy is a great thing, and we should all be trying to make our societies really, really meritocratic. In other words -- what is a meritocratic society? A meritocratic society is one in which, if you've got talent and energy and skill, you will get to the top, nothing should hold you back. It's a beautiful idea.

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今日你变得像比尔-盖茨一样，有钱又出名的机会，大概就跟你在十七世纪，成为法国贵族一样困难。但重点是，感觉却差别很大。今日的杂志和其它媒体让我们感觉，只要你有冲劲、对科技有一些新颖的想法，再加上一个车库，你就可以踏上比尔的道路。

It's probably as unlikely that you would nowadays become as rich and famous as Bill Gates, as it was unlikely in the17th century that you would accede to the ranks of the French aristocracy. But the point is, it doesn't feel that way. It's made to feel, by magazines and other media outlets, that if you've got energy, a few bright ideas about technology, a garage -- you, too, could start a major thing.

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答案也许就在于一个令人并不自在的想法，即虽然我们解决了爱的需求，但并不能满足我们的渴望。

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人们有一种冲动，想将爱与恨截然分开，而不是把它们视作一个人多方面情感的合理反应。想要爱一个完美的事物和恨完全丑恶的事物、想要找到一个无可置疑的仇恨或者爱恋的合适对象，这些想法都是幼稚的。

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他人观点的狭隘性、他人感情的琐碎无聊、他人想法的荒谬乖张，以及他人错误的防不胜防，我们就会逐渐对他人大脑中进行的一切活动变得漠不关心。……然后我们就会明白任何一个过度重视他人观点的人给了他人过高的尊严，”哲学遁世主义的代表人物，阿瑟·叔本华如此说道。

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世上有一种公式认为别人对我们的想法决定我们对自己的想法，而任何侮辱，无论正确与否，都会使我们蒙羞。

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我们还能够非常重视这种人的观点吗？叔本华问。我们还能够在真正意义上继续允许他们的判断支配我们对自己的想法吗？我们还能够理智地把我们的自我形象置于一群玩牌者的手中吗？即使这些人的的确确对某人表示了尊重，但他们的尊重到底能值几何？

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从一个指示牌便能看出两地间巨大的差异，这正可以作为一个简单却让人愉悦的想法的注脚:一旦跨越国界，脚下便是一个不同的国度，风俗人情和生活习惯亦必大异其趣。