In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?

过去是一个陌生的国度；那里的人做事方式不同。

A ship is always referred to as "she" because it costs so much to keep one in paint and powder.