Advice like these are not laws. They are like hats. If one doesn’t fit, try another.
 我既是旁观者清亦是当局者迷。
"It's hard to think of anyone who, at one time or another, has not been laid low by love or by the lack of it."
我非常相信用清单来解决难题。你需要在你面前得到所有可能和不可能的答案;否则很容易错过一些重要的东西。