You can't be wise and in love at the same time.

Communicate everything you possibly can to your partners. The more they know, the more they'll understand. The more they understand, the more they'll care. Once they care, there's no stopping them.

南怀瑾：色一个字，不单是代表五蕴，连外面宇宙万有形形色色都包在内。……这内外两种色，都是因缘生，无自性，无实体，不可得，根本是性空。现下虽是幻有，毕竟不可得的，所以即色即空，并不是色之外另有个空。